How to find your long lost love

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How to find your long lost love

If you’re trying to work out how to find your long lost love then we have written this article with you in mind. We conduct many searches on a weekly basis. In fact, finding a long lost love is one of our more popular searches so we felt the need to offer some support and guidance for you, we really hope this helps offer some reassurance, not only is it possible but its also the right thing to do.

My name is David Oates, I am the Head Researcher at Relative Connections, you can view my LinkedIn by clicking here. I am also the director of the adoption support agency which is regulated by Ofsted. I am a highly regarded and experienced family tracer and intermediary. I have spoken about finding long lost family on BBC Radio 5 and was part of the featured team on BBC1’s Family Finders TV series

We hear often that people feel a little strange doing something like this, its not something they have every done before but let us assure you, you don’t need to. We find searches like this endearing. Connecting with someone from you past can be a powerful thing, companionship is important, now more than ever.

Over the past few years, we have seen an influx of this kind of work and rightly so! Life is too short and if someone is missing from your life, someone important from way back when, you first love or a close friend and you’re still thinking about them after all these years then they must have made an impression in your life. Why not reconnect with them?

We find many positive outcomes with this type of work too. To be honest, it can be a really rewarding process for everyone. Over the years, we have even facilitated a wedding though reconnecting long lost loves with each other!

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Here at Relative Connections, we feel friendships are just as important as relationships.

How to find your long lost love? Well, as a member of the public, we’re afraid this doesn’t come easy. With the loss sites such as Friend Reunited, it’s become harder to reconnect over the years.

Facebook and other social media can offer some glimmers of hope and as you know, people can marry, change their names and even move around to different areas or sometimes even different countries so it can become quite a task to trawl through different social media outlets to find your long lost love and to ensure it’s the right person too.

A check of birth, death and marriage records can help too, you can look Ancestry records or Find My Past to help you find documentation relating to the person you are looking for which may aid your investigation. Documentation is public information but the hurdles may then come when trying to obtain a current residential address. People’s details are not readily available to the public anymore, you may find some online electoral rolls but the truth is people can opt out of these now and the information is usually out of date by the time its published from when is it actually collated.

If you are one of the lucky ones and find who you’re looking for then we feel its right to be considered of their current circumstances too. Contacting someone for the first time after many years is a big step, it has to be done right. We would never advise a direct message or just turning up at someone’s door. Not only do you owe it to yourself but to the person your looking for too, the respect and opportunity to get the best outcome for everyone.

Be considered and remember why you’re doing this.

All this being said we love this type of work! It’s the stuff that gives us goosebumps when we can finally be the ones to connect you with each other. We feel it too, we’ll be there to share the joys and the tears of happiness with you too. Working out how to find a long lost love can be a grueling process for you but it doesn’t have to be, we can take the resigns and work with you to find them from start to finish, including our in house intermediary services too where we will facilitate contact with them for you and communicate between you both until we can find the best way forward for everyone. With us, it can easy and stress free.

Just like we did for Jim O’Connor…

“I contacted Relative Connections to get them to do a search for a friend who I had lost touch with in the 1960s.

I was dubious about the possibility of tracing my friend because I had only her first name and a couple more details for them to work with, but they reassured me that they were confident that my friend could be traced

To my amazement, Relative Connections were able to find my friend in less than one week.

Finding her was just the beginning. Relative Connections intermediary service then began a discreet process of establishing contact with my long lost friend.

I have now been reconnected with my friend from long ago and I’m extremely grateful to Relative Connections sensitive handling of this search that has bought us back together.”

You see, we can take the information you have and connect the dots. We look historically first to match up against the details that can be a name, rough and last known whereabouts. Once we have that starting point then we can obtain whatever documentation that may be needed to follow the path that their life has taken tracing them through to a current residential address.

All of our data is sourced in the private domain and we are qualified and licensed to access these details too so you can rest assured that when we find some, we guarantee that result to you too.

We’ll then discuss with you what you want to say in a brief statement before we make contact (when you’re ready) to reach out and ultimately get you both back in touch with each other. You can soon be reminiscing of times gone by and catching up on each other’s lives together with a real sense of fulfilment in no time.

So, if you want to know how to find a long lost love then it all starts with a quick phone call on 0113 282 5900. Tell us your story (we really love to hear them) and what you remember about who you’re looking for then we’ll put a plan of action together and let you know the best service that we feel will help you find and reconnect with your long lost love.