How To Find My Birth Mother

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How to find my birth mother is something we are asked about all the time. If you’re looking for advice and information on how to find her then you’re in the right place. Since 2008 we’ve been successfully locating people like you with their birth mothers. Like we did for Kevin – Watch video below to find out his amazing story.

My name is David Oates, I am the Head Researcher at Relative Connections, you can view my LinkedIn by clicking here. I am also the director of the adoption support agency which is regulated by Ofsted.

As the market leaders for finding birth mothers we know that this will be a huge deal for you. We support and help you throughout the whole process of finding your birth mother.

We can search for, find and contact your birth mother for you. Our research team who carry out this work for you are now widely regarded as the leading team in the UK for finding birth mothers.

They can find your birth mother with only snippets of information. So if you’re looking for a service that will take the information you have about your birth mother and trace her to her exact address then we’d love to have a chat with you about it.

It starts by filling in an enquiry form on our website you can do that by clicking here. If you prefer you can call us now on 0113 2825900 and we can have a chat with you about what we do and how we do it.

Our research team are now widely regarded as the leading team in the UK for locating birth mothers. They specialise in finding mothers with only snippets of information. Results are guaranteed to be correct too.

Best of all once we have found your birth mother we can act as an intermediary between you both until you are happy to push forward with direct contact with each other. The best thing about this service is it allows your birth mother to have come to terms with being located and lets us deal with any initial reaction. It really will make your birth mother feel valued and get your relationship off to a strong start.

How to find my birth mother

There are steps you can take to locate your birth mother yourself should you wish. Our research team centre all research on life events. So if you don’t have your mother’s date of birth the team will carry out searches to locate her birth certificate. Once they have that they’ll carry out more searches around marriage certificates and see if you birth mothers has married and how many times. It’s critical that all her life is looked through as this can tell us so much about the life she has led and the will ultimately lead to her current whereabouts.

Our through systems ensures we find around 92% of birth mothers we are asked to locate. So this is great approach if you are going to find your birth mother yourself. A little tip when checking marriage records, don’t stop at the first one! It’s common for people to remarry. When you look for a second marriage remember she may have married again in her first married name or gone back to her maiden name so check both.

It’s worth checking the death register too. It’s not nice to think that she’s passed but if she has maybe it’s better to find out sooner rather than later. If you find that she has passed away you can order the death certificate and see how she died and also see who the informant of the death was. This will hopefully reassure you that it was nothing hereditary. You can also trace the informant of the death, this is usually a friend or relative. If you locate them then chances will be they can tell you more about your birth mother.

Once you’ve carried out these life searches you can progress your ‘how to find my birth mother’ search. At this stage you should know your birth mothers exact age and her exact name. At this stage our team would be able to search address systems based on this information and quickly find her current address. For you, even at this stage it’s a slightly more difficult to do. You are limited with what information you can readily access online. You’ll need to use an address system that lets you search people by their name an age range you could try 192 and People Tracer for this. Clearly the problem will be if your birth mother has a common name. This would potentially return too many matches to be of any use. To get round this you can search the area around where her marriage had taken place and also around her birth place too.

A final word on Facebook.

You might be able to find your birth mother on Facebook.  However, with Facebook there may be multiple name matches for your mother and it can be very difficult to work out which one is correct.

For us to carry out this crucial work for you starts by filling in a find your mother enquiry here.

We understand that your search will be so important to you. The Relative Connections promise is to make sure we do everything we can to help you get in touch with your birth mother and support you and her throughout the whole process.

We hope this guide has given you some useful times on how to find my birth mother.